If you were honest with yourself, would you say that you like who you are? Or are you one of those people that are performing makeovers on your appearance or personality? If you are feeling upset or anxious about who you are and you see all the imperfections every time you look in the mirror, are there ways for you to change this? How can you like yourself better rather than critiquing yourself constantly?
Learn How to Look at the Things You Like About Yourself
When we look in the mirror we can think that we need to change so much about ourselves. But for most of us, a facelift isn’t on the cards. When you look at yourself in the mirror rather than focusing on the negatives you can look at the things that you do like. Your hair, didn’t you do a great job on it? If you think there’s absolutely nothing you like about yourself, this is when a little creative license can come in handy. We can learn to highlight our attributes better by finding a mirror with better lighting.
It’s About the Long Haul, Not the Here and Now
We can all make efforts to be a better person. Where we fall down is that we expect these changes to happen instantaneously. If there’s something you really don’t like about yourself, such as your weight, you need to give yourself a timeline that is realistic. In addition to this, you need to set small and achievable goals. This is the most important thing to ensure you don’t dig deep into that negative well. It is about the long journey rather than immediate results. The journey of losing weight is something that has resulted in many people looking for a quick fix solution. But this can be very dangerous. Lifestyle changes are more efficient than dietary ones.
The Past Is in the Past
Most of us think that we would love to turn back the clock and when we have regrets about things we’ve done, we can’t undo them. The most important thing we have to remember is that we’ve learnt something about ourselves in the process. It can be incredibly anxiety-inducing when we’ve made a massive mistake in our lives. But time heals all wounds. And when we’ve got regrets about certain life choices, we have to remember that they have led us in a certain direction. We now know that was a mistake, so we can now go in a better direction.
Get to Know Yourself Better
You may think you know yourself perfectly well, but when there are things about you don’t like, you can reflect on the negative rather than taking the time to understand the great things about you. Many people don’t like the idea of being by themselves but this is the perfect opportunity to reflect. Taking time alone to think about your life and your experiences can be better than a handful of life lessons gleaned from someone else. Spending time by yourself doesn’t mean scrolling through social media. But instead, think about enjoying a movie or going for a meal by yourself, where you can take the opportunity to enjoy the quiet and think about everything in your life.
Spend an Evening Without Worrying How You Look
When we think so much about reapplying our make-up and checking our hair this pressure seeps into our lives in other ways. Having one evening or an entire weekend without wearing make-up or nice clothes can give you the opportunity to see what it’s like being yourself without needing to impress anybody else. These “duvet days” can be the perfect rejuvenator. When we don’t need to impress everyone else and we take that opportunity to recharge with a box set, it can make us think about what we are doing to ourselves. If we have to continually impress others, what is this saying about how we view ourselves?
Liking who we are isn’t about 100% satisfaction, but if we can get up to 75% or 80%, where we are happy with most of our personality, we can pat ourselves on the back and think that’s good enough. Liking who we are isn’t something that occurs overnight we have to learn to enjoy who we are, but this also means embracing our imperfections. But if we focus on these imperfections, we can magnify them so much that we think we are worthless. Liking who we are can be about doing a reality check on occasion. Nobody is perfect, and neither are you.
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